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3 Real Ways to Build a Secure Attachment With Your Newborn

Feed them at first signs of hunger. Take a little time to learn your baby's early hunger cues. Once you learn to notice them, you’ll be able to respond to your baby before the point of upset. Both of you will be comforted and feel in rhythm with each other. Plus, baby is learning that they can trust you. This lays the foundation for a secure and healthy attachment and will allow your baby to focus their energy on developmental tasks, not searching for your response to their needs.

I adore KellyMom, it’s a wonderful resource. Read about hunger cues Here .

Respond warmly to their cries. Maybe you’ve been told not to spoil your baby by holding them too much or that it’s good to put baby down so that “they will get used to it”. There is no such thing as spoiling a baby with love and there is no habit that can’t be broken at this point in your baby’s life. In reality, holding your baby has been shown to be beneficial to their cognitive, physical, and emotional development. Plus, as a newborn, your baby depends on you to respond to them and comfort them when they cry. There is no such thing as helping your baby “toughen up” or learn lessons about crying—they just need you to care for them the best you can. 

Hold them close. Your sweet baby is still in the process of figuring out life outside the womb and being close to you helps them feel safe and secure in their brand new world. Like I said, when babies feel safe and secure, they can focus their energy on learning and developing to their fullest. This literally means that responding to your baby and holding them actually supports brain growth and benefits children on a physiological level as well as on an emotional level. Don’t let anyone convince you not to snuggle your sweet little baby!

Baby wearing is a wonderful option to give your baby the closeness and comfort that they crave. It’s natural and beneficial to be close with your baby. 

Studies have shown that babies who are worn or held close to their mothers cry less but also benefit cognitively, physically, and socially. There are also benefits for parents such as a believed connection between babywearing and lower rates of postpartum mood and anxiety disorders (and the pure convenience of babywearing!).