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When Should I Ask For Help?


Being a child therapist helped me understand the importance of early intervention and prevention. Instead of treating depression, anxiety, anger management problems and emotional dysregulation, ADHD, poor self-esteem, and poor social skills, we need to focus on preventing these struggles in our children. Not only to we need to focus on prevention instead of treatment, we need to shift from focusing on “fixing children” and instead, work with parents, too.

It's hard to look for help when there doesn't seem to be a problem. That makes complete sense. I do, however, see that many parents would benefit from putting time and energy into thinking about how they want to parent. Parents who have a strong sense of how and why they make their parenting decisions are more likely to enjoy parenthood and find it easier. There is also a lot to be said for seeking support when you know you may be at risk for some parenting challenges. Read on to learn about some common reasons parents may find preventative and early services helpful. 

1. Some past mental health concerns. Women who enter motherhood with a history of mental health concerns are more likely to suffer from postpartum depression, anxiety, and other mood disorders. Luckily, we know that features of postpartum depression and mood disorders can be alleviated with proper support. So, ask for help early and enter motherhood with strong emotional health and practical tools to feel your best!

2. Conflicting or differing opinions in partner relationships. Parenting is stressful and even more so when partners have major disagreements about parenting, division of responsibilities in the home, roles, etc. Working together early to come up with solutions to some of the most stressful decisions preemptively can make a huge different. Of course, if you feel unsafe with your partner in any emotional, physical, or financial way, please seek help by going here or by calling 1-800-799-7233. 

3. Small support network or big life stressors. Lack of support and stress are both issues that can make parenting EXTRA hard. Support networks look different to everyone but feelings of isolation in parenthood makes everything harder. Let's work together to find meaningful connections that will reduce isolation. As for life stressors...parenting can be stressful enough! We'll work together to create and practice positive coping methods. 

4. Challenges with your own childhood or experience of being parented. Nothing brings up our past wounds more than parenting. Many of us are triggered by the experience of parenting our own child and some more than others. There are many, many reasons why parenting can be emotionally challenging. Together, we can discover ways to move forward and heal in ways that are meaningful and relevant to being the parent, and person, you want to be. 

5. You want to set yourself up for joyful, confident parenting. Good enough reason right there! Let's put a little time into creating your ideal parenthood journey. We'll fly over some parts and really tuck into others. Your support is customized to you and your style. 

Sometimes our little ones struggle in ways we didn't expect. Sometimes we may feel confused and overwhelmed. Here are some common reasons parents of little ones may benefit from support:

1. Too many choices! There may be a seemingly "simple" parenting issue that suddenly has you feeling like you're drowning in information overload. No need to worry. We can take apart the concern and get to the fundamental issue and the best-practices that will be most helpful to you and your specific child. 

2. You're unsure whether or not your child's behavior is typical. Again, we can work together to get to the bottom of it. My background in child development and mental health are a perfect pair to ease the minds of worried parents, or help parents gain the tools they need to support their child. 

3. Challenging behavior. Most children will go through developmental phases that make parents feel a little...overwhelmed. Parents may find themselves torn on discipline strategies or feel like what they are trying isn't working. Again, there is so much information out there and it can be hard to know what will really work, let alone what is actually best for the child. Our work together will equip you with the tools you need to be able to handle your child's behavior in ways that will help your whole family thrive. 

There are so many other times when preventative or early support may be helpful to families. There is never a question too small or too silly to ask. If you're curious about whether or not you may benefit from working with me, please don't hesitate to contact me. Leah@leahfrankel.com